9 years of marriage under my belt. Nine.
It kind of sucks that on my anniversary I would spend some time thinking about all the naysayers, all the people who, that long time ago, said my relationship wouldn't last. Nine years is solid, respectable. Nine years says I don't have to prove my self to anybody anymore. Then why do those people still take up some of my precious brain-space? It's not like I'm still wounded by that anymore, I don't feel wounded. It just crosses my mind.
In any event, I'm really excited about Year Ten.
It kind of sucks that on my anniversary I would spend some time thinking about all the naysayers, all the people who, that long time ago, said my relationship wouldn't last. Nine years is solid, respectable. Nine years says I don't have to prove my self to anybody anymore. Then why do those people still take up some of my precious brain-space? It's not like I'm still wounded by that anymore, I don't feel wounded. It just crosses my mind.
In any event, I'm really excited about Year Ten.
20 comments:
Congratulations!
It obviously is an arduous task to carry and cope with multiple cultures & norms, and the expectation of people (read: naysayers). And if you have survived all these years (and have lived with contentment), it definitely means that you (and your dulha) are individuals mentally capable and responsible to handle an important relationship, kudos to you both as individuals and as a couple.
Congratulations and Happy Anniversary. There's always naysayers even if you're in a same-culture, same race, same clan/caste/city, etc. relationship. People just like to complain when you're not doing things their way. They'll get over it or they won't, it's their problem. You don't have to prove anything to them.
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I hope the very best to you in years to come. I am in a similar predicament as you are and I enjoy your blog. :)
Dear Bhabi
BUhat mubarak on the wedding anniversary.
My regards and wishes to Mian and love to my lovely bhateeja.
asif
Ever since I found your blog it's been fun sharing it with my family.
We are shopping for a trip to Pakistan, believe me there is truth to every word you said!!
Happy Anniversary, I enjoy your blog very much. I am in a similar situation as you, and there is so much truth in your words. May Allah bless you in your years to come.
Congratulations! It's worth letting yourself feel the full hurt arising from what others have said and then the feelings will go for good if that makes sense.
I stumbled across your blog sometime last year and loved all your stories! I read through all your posts in lightining speed - my eyes hurt for a few days from all the reading. But I couldn't stop.
Congratulations on your 9 years! :)
~ Shaza ~
Congrats! I've also been married to my Pakistani born husband for nine going to be ten years in Sept. Sometimes I think of the naysayers too. I never had any doubts though. :)
very happy for you! Many more to come.
I really enjoy your blogs, having a few americans in my family, I see your view very clearly now!
Congrats on your anniversary! and Thank you for sharing info about your life , it definitely helped me . I am Indian guy , i just married a white girl without families approval. They keep telling us that it won't last and westerners doesn't know family values and keeping up with relationships but your blog gives us hope to move
Congrats on your anniversary! and Thank you for sharing info about your life , it definitely helped me . I am Indian guy , i just married a white girl without families approval. They keep telling us that it won't last and westerners doesn't know family values and keeping up with relationships but your blog gives us hope to move
Congrats on your Anniversary and thank you for posting this info , it definitely helped me . I am an Indian guy currently working in US and fell in love with one of my white co-workers and married her last month with out parents approval. They keep telling us that it wont last, your blog gives us hope!
Hello, I love reading your blog. I am in a wonder group called "Blindian & Other Asian Interracial Love" Where there are people of all races who are married to Pakistanis, Indian, SriLankans, Chinese, Korean etc. It would be nice for you to join the group and share your blog with others. Also there are pictures of the couples and their babies in the group as well. Here is the group link https://www.facebook.com/groups/173838722716685/ The group has rules to protect the privacy of the couples who post their pictures of their families and weddings. So feel free to join and share.
Happy Anniversary...
You have really nice blog.
I'm in a similar situation, I'm a Gori Wife happily married to an Indian for 10 years now. I completely understand about the naysayers. I thought after 10 years it would eventually stop, but it doesn't. It use to really bother me but over the years I have learned to just let it go through one ear and out the other. Congrats to you and your husband for reaching 9 years :)
Hi I have recently met a sweet man from Pakistan. He did start the I love you very early. I'm not used to that. We have a long distance relationship as I live on the East Coast of the United States. He wants to fly me to Europe in 6 weeks. He constantly asks for pictures. I appreciate each and every comment as I want to understand the culture. I don't know how I should dress or act when I see him in person. I want first his respect.
Hi, first of all many congratulations for your marriage anniversary!!!
I've discovered your blog by chance and I'm reading it with a lot of interest and fun. I'm having a relation with a Pakistani guy from Islamabad from almost one year, and I really enjoy the process to discover another culture...
Please check out my blog. I'm also a Gori wife married to a Pakistani man!
GoriNiqabiWife.blogspot.com
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